MEN PLS: Why does my husband flirt on business trips? Does that mean he’s cheating?
Question by CEO_Wife: MEN PLS: Why does my husband flirt on business trips? Does that mean he’s cheating?
My husband’s cell phone recently “dialed” home while he was on a business trip – accidentally. I heard him flirting & chatting with women in a bar. MEN ONLY — does this mean he’s cheating on me, or intends to? He claims it was totally innocent & “business” related. I feel so betrayed & sick. We have a great relationship and great sex-life. I always tell him how proud I am of him. I treat him like the wonderful man I ‘thought’ he was.
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Answer by H
Flirting does not have to lead to cheating. Some of us do it to get a quick ego boost.
We like to know that we still got it
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Flirting can often lead to other things. He should stop if he respects you and your relationship together
he could just be flirting
which is COMPLEETLY innocent.
Relax.. Just understand the stats.. 85% of all men, married or not, flirts with other women during biz trips.. It’s just a man thinggy and most of the time it is very innocent..
men like to flirt to know theyve still got it, its reassuring
it doesnt matter where you get your appetite as long as you eat at home!
follow him next time to be sure!
What you heard on his cell is meaningless… there is plenty of “business-like” flirting when colleagues go out for dinner and drinks.. all in good fun.
HOWEVER, he is a man, and therefore he will cheat every chance he gets if he is confident he won’t get caught, and it is very easy to not get caught when travelling on business.
More importantly, why do you care? What you don’t know won’t hurt you.
You probably just dont put out enough, and he wants more of an adventure in his life. You should do the same.
It very well could be innocent and then at the same time since he is so high up on the work chain, being the CEO and all, he could be straying from the nest.
No it does not mean that he is cheating. He could be certainly, but it does not mean that he is.
well its not a good sign. for some reason he feels the need to flirt with other women. the only one he should be flirting with is YOU. its possible he already has cheated or is intending to soon. i would think twice about this marriage. is it really what you think it was or is? maybe there is more about him you dont know. personally i would never flirt with another woman, i love my wife. to me that is betrayal to flirt with someone other than your spouse.
You ought to feel betrayed. When a guy is flirting, he is sending out signals…. you do the math.
Both men and women flirt constantly…men more so than women. Just because a man flirts does not mean he carries through with anything…and it doesn’t mean he doesn’t…Surely you have seen him flirt with others in front of you…it means nothing, but it is a way of having some innocent fun. The real problem occurs when the flirting leads to an easy ego boost in the hay…can’t tell you more than that. Some guys can handle it for what it is worth (nothing) and some can’t. And a roll in the hay is worth nothing, but sure can do some damage to a relationship. It sounds as if your man needs constant support in the ego department…does he have security or self image issues? Hmmmm, can’t say anymore than this.
I’m a guy, and give me a break when he claims it’s business related. BS! He’s some big prize that a female in charge of making a decision just won’t close the deal unless he flirts with her, right? He got caught, plain and simple.
Chatting is ok- flirting is not ok. I consider flirting aggressively to be cheating- because if she dosen’t take it as a joke, what’s stopping them after that? It’s like those guys on Dateline: To Catch a Predator, they show up and say they were joking or they were going to help them.
Doesn’t exactly remind you of your wedding day when he pulls that crap, huh?
Hey AdultMALE, it’s fun to make up statistics, huh? Boy, that percentage sign just makes it seem so . . . OFFICIAL! What’s your source?
all men flirt a little that dose not mean he is cheating on you
Please don’t jump to conclusions. Believe him the first time, forgive him the second time, forget him the third time if it happens. Believe me there won’t be any second and third chances if he is really honest with you, even if this first one actually happened.
yes dear he is really cheating on you for sure and that isnt right for him to do on you now you sound about like a ladie i would loved to have meet be cause you sound very honest and a very loving gal i would love to actually meet some one that honest to be married to myself
just because he is talking to other people doesn’t mean he is flirting ,what do you want him to do , not go on business trips and keep his mouth shut , hello that is the most ridiculous thing i have heard, stop being insecure ,and be happy , as long as you have a great life ,you shouldn’t worry.
well i say be positive coz sometime, even in these cases, there are exeptions, so really, dont be hasty, no offence, but i dont know, this could be dangerous, try to get closer to him, spend some time with him, it could at least tell u somtin u really supposed to know!
gd lk!!!!!
Hmm… in a bar? Talking to nothin’ but women? That’s a toughy. I will say that you have a legitimate concern. But since there’s no solid evidence, can’t be too upset. But just be somewhat skeptical.
Personally I would classify this as a borderline emotional affair. Unfortunately, some men don’t understand what an emotional affair is nor do they understand the damage it does to a marriage.
My husband and I are going through a sort of simular situation. Only I caught him having cyber-sex and making arrangement to get together with women. I found out in January and I am still battling the feelings.
Best advice—talk to him, stand your ground and maybe go for relationship counselling.
Your husband was wrong to flirt. He knows it, you know it. I’m sorry you had to learn he isn’t perfect and that he does have eyes for others. Some say looking isn’t bad but I say it isn’t helping as we, as women, want to know that we are the ones that rock our husband’s world and we are all hurt when we learn that they are looking at or flirting with other women. Men don’t want to understand this and so tell us we are unreasonable or just plain jealous.
Are you two christians? Jesus said that who so ever looks at another woman with lust has already comitted adultry. I think he knew what he was talking about – men look at women lustfully and have very explicit sexual thoughts along with their looks. He won’t admit it, most men won’t. Will he change? No, probably not. He doesn’t think it is wrong and even if it hurts you and you tell him so, he will still justify continuing the way he is by telling himself you are just being unreasonable and are feeling jealous over nothing.
What to do? I don’t know. Any chance you can go with him on these business trips in the future? Either way, you can’t watch him 100% of the time and you can’t predict the future. He might cheat one day and he might not. No point in stressing over something that hasn’t happened and may never happen.
Good luck with trying to explain to him why you felt so hurt – maybe he’ll get it, who knows. Men think differently then we do and usually aren’t motivated to learn how women think and how they can relate better to us and treat us in a way that makes us feel secure and loved. Looking and flirting with others does’t promote those feelings.
better run the the doc’s
I am a middle aged man with 25 years of excellent married life. There is a basic gender difference which reflects in the attitude of man and woman towards marriage. Innocent flirting is some thing which every man and many woman enjoy. Do not make it a issue. it can not be considered as betrayal. See that he does such things in your knowledge. Be worried when he tries to conceal the things from you.
yes its wrong to flirt,If you have a good woman or a good man at home who loves you and supports you and really treats you good ,you better best not flirt . it does and can lead to home wreckers.If you have a good better half a thome you better keep it that way with all the the sex diseases and all out their and you have a clean bill of health your better keep it that way.I m not saying a person cant glance but when you flirt you flirt and thats not right for a man or woman to do.when you are down and out judt think whos all ways been there for you.IF you are happy with your wife ,husband ,boyfriend then you are not going to get out and flirt around.(SORRY IF YOU DONT AGREE)But when you love someone you are not going out to flirt to look for someone else just to mess up a ood thing even if its a one night stand it can cause you a big heart ach. From West virginia
Well if all the fires at home are burning fine, then I would presume that you have nothing to worry about. Now if he starts coming home with their thongs and panties maybe you have a problem.
All men like most women these days – flirt, whether they are married or not. As part of my job, I had to travel many times for upto a month at a time – we get lonely, we get bored, and we get horny – but it depends on how strong your relationship is and how committed he is to you. Alcohol does lower one’s ability to think clearly and can lead to making stupid judgements – talk to him (without nagging about it) and if gets defensive about it – he may have guilty feelings or be hiding something.
It means he is trying.